The problem with the internet isn’t that there’s not enough information. The problem is to find it.
There are incredible writers today who have written (probably) everything there is to know about living well. It would be shame not to share some of their best work with you.
No need to read everything, pick topics that resonate the best with you. Bookmark this page and come back later.
I apologize for a lot of specific advice being focused towards men, because, well, I can’t really speak for women when it comes to many topics. Don’t worry though as there’s something for everyone.
1. Getting rid of the negative
Everything negative in us limits the amount of possibilities that exist in our lives. When we are in that state of mind, solid advice will feel like crap and everything feels impossible.This is why it should be ones primary aim to condition oneself out of these patterns.
- Understanding Negative States of Mind – Part 1 of my “getting rid of negative thoughts” -manifesto
- How I Got Rid of Negative Thoughts.. Permanently – Part 2
- 8 Destructive Thinking Patterns And How To Change Them – I can’t stress enough how important identifying the thinking patterns is.
- 12 Tricks Your Brain Is Playing On You – Some more patterns ;)
- 15 Things You Should Give Up In Order To Be Happy
- Letting Go of Your Negative Energy
Recommended book: The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle
2. Education & Skills
Formal education is becoming horribly outdated (and in some ways it already is). World is changing fast and you either keep up with it or suffer the consequences.
If I’d have to give one single tip when it comes to educating yourself, it’s “read books”. Not just any kind of books, but books that are known to boost your ability to progress in the real world. The reason why reading those books is important is that otherwise you will spend your life in a bubble full of beliefs and concepts that can easily hinder your quality of life. In addition to that, here’s 5 other reasons why you should read books.
- Average Doesn’t Mean Secure – Scott explains brilliantly why “safe” probably isn’t as safe as you think it is.
- Education Needs To Be Turned On Its Head – Leo Babauta shares his view on education
- 3 Things School Taught You Without You Even Realizing It – Mark Manson on how school screws some of us up
- Advice For Beginners – Comic on how you learn by sticking to something.
- Be Friends With Failure – Comic on understanding learning skills, failing and succeeding.
Recommended book: The Education of Millionaires by Michael Ellsberg
3. Body, Posture and Fitness
Most of our communication happens through body language – it would be waste not to make the best of it. Start by watching this phenomenal talk by Amy Cuddy: Our body language shapes who we are.
Also, great body language is only half as effective when you don’t have a great body to use it on.
- Ultimate Guide For Body Language For Men – Hands down the best article I’ve ever seen on body language for men
- How To Create A DEEPER Voice – Breath from the balls.
- The Ultimate Guide to Good Posture – Great infographic
- 18 Ways To Improve Your Body Language
- How To Make Strong, Unforgettable Eye-Contact
- 13 Unexpected Benefits of Exercise
- The Absolute Beginners Guide To Working Out
4. Happiness & Mind
The biggest misconception of happiness is to confuse it with momentary feeling of euphoria. Living a life that you can call “happy” isn’t about feeling constantly awesome, but about having ways to achieve good states as often as possible.
There will always be fluctuation in emotional states. The difference is how much you spend time on the happy-side of “happy/sad scale”.
- Stop Trying to Be Happy – I agree with Mark here. I never felt good just by trying to feel good, it came as a side product when I was busy doing other things.
- Happiness Is Uncovering What You Already Have
- How To Rewire Your Brain for Positivity and Happiness
- 9 Mind-Bending Epiphanies That Turned My World Upside-down – Many of these turned my world upside-down too.
- 100 Ways To Develop Your Mind
- Meditation, A Beginners Practical Guide
Even the most driven people will feel sometimes that they don’t have any motivation. Before I realized how to motivate myself, I thought that I had to wait for it to come. I wasted months just because I was missing the “first burst of motivation” that enabled me to work passionately on pretty much anything.
- Get Off Your Butt: 16 Ways to Get Motivated When You’re in a Slump
- 11 Ways To Be Average – Average isn’t necessarily bad, but this comic is worth giving a thought.
- “Someday” Is a Disease – There will never be a perfect moment
- Top 100 Inspirational quotes
- Motivational quotes
Recommended book: 50th Law by Robert Greene & 50 Cent
- How To Beat Procrastination – If this isn’t awesome, I don’t know what is.
- 33 Rules to Boost Your Productivity (+ volume 2)
- The “Do Something” Principle – This includes one of the big lessons: actions isn’t just the result of motivation, but it also generates it.
- the zen of doing – Great insights from zen -point of view.
- 60 Productivity Tips – The Ultimate List For Getting Things Done
Recommended book: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
Confidence is a tricky topic. There isn’t a “trigger” for everyone that can make them confident – it’s a sum of your current state of being that is supported by 1. What you do (momentum) 2. How you think (state of mind) 3. What you’ve done (experience).
In other words, you get confidence indirectly by participating actively in your other parts of life (momentum + experience) and educating yourself constantly with material (state of mind + experience) that is made to make you more confident.
- Are You Messing Up The Simple X+Y=Z Formula for Building Confidence
- 63 Ways To Build Self-Confidence
- Authentic – The Ten Rules For Making Friends and Being Popular – This could also belong to the ‘social’.
- 10 Steps to Real Self Confidence
- 5 Steps To Instantly Appear More Confident
- How To Feel Confident and In Control When You’re Overwhelmed
8. Self-Discipline & Habits
Before I got into Self growth, I didn’t understand how important self-discipline and habits truly are. If you look at any successful and/or happy person closer, you will find deeply embedded habits as well as tremendous self-discipline underneath.
You get to choose your habits. You get to choose to be self-disciplined.
- The 5 Greatest Self Development Strategies That Actually Work
- How Simple Mini-habits Can Change Your Life – I started exercising again because of this: 1 Push-up and 1 Pull-up a day and now I’m doing daily at least 3*10 of both.
- The Elegant Secret To Self-discipline
- 17 Daily Habits I Use To Keep My Shit Together
- Sprinting Theory: How to Have Self-Discipline on Steroids
Recommended book: Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins
9. Sleeping & Waking up early
The oldest trick in the book, which brings consistency to your life – especially if you have an irregular sleeping schedule.
- 10 Benefits of Rising Early, and How to Do It
- How To Survive The Soul-Sucking Mornings And Roll Through The Day
- 7 Simple Ways To Burst Out of Bed Each Morning
Learning to be more social made a big difference in my life as I managed to get more and more out of my head. I’ve still got lot to learn how to keep the conversation as fluid as possible, but I’m making progress every week. Here are several great resources for being more social and having great conversations.
- Why Some People Are Hard to Talk to but Not Others (and What to Do About It)
- One Simple Habit To Crush Any Conversation: From CEOs To The Girl In The Bar – One of the best articles I’ve read on keeping the conversation going.
- 21 Keys to Magnetic Likeability
- 4 Secrets Of People With High Social Value
- Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in Conversation?
- 7 Warning Signs That You’re A Boring Conversationalist
- 11 Ways To Turn Strangers Into Friends
- How To Be A Good Friend
Recommended book: How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
11. Relationships & Dating
Relationships have been a struggle for me basically my whole life and I can imagine there are lots of other people who have been going through the same.
Getting to intimate relationships is the number 1 way to push through your comfort-zone and it’s complimented very well with general self-improvement.
That’s why I like to recommend Owen Cook to people as he’s about 80% of self-growth and 20% of seduction (yes, I pulled these figures out of my ass). So if your aim is to improve yourself as well as to become more attractive, check his videos out.
- The 20 Lessons To Learn in Your 20’s About Women and Dating Or Be Single Forever
- 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
- This Infographic Reveals The Secrets Of The Happiest Couples
12. Simple living
I don’t dream of fancy cars or big houses – freedom is the thing that I appreciate the most. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t dream of those, but I suggest you to consider whether you’ll find happiness and joy through materialism.
- The 10 Most Important Things To Simplify In Your Life (+ most popular posts of becomingminimalist.com)
- 101 Steps to a Simpler Life
- Simple Living Manifesto: 72 Ideas to Simplify Your Life
- Being Special Isn’t So Special
13. Life in general
Great articles that don’t fit under other topics.
- Life is a game. This is your strategy guide – The whole article is so well constructed and executed that it deserves a read.
- 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person – One of my favorite “tough love” articles
- Massive list of random tips to make your life better
- 30 Things To Start Doing For Yourself
- 5 Things That Have to Happen Before You Fix Your Crappy Life – Do you know those articles that seem to talk exactly about you? This is one of those for me – it hits so close.
14. Life lessons
There are lots of these as every single one of them contains a huge amount of value :)
- 40 Things I Wish I knew Sooner (Compact Guide to Life)
- 20 Things I Wish I Had Known When Starting Out in Life
- 20 Practical Life Lessons Kids Can Teach Us
- 8 Painfully Obvious Life Lessons I Learned This Year
- Top 10 Regrets In Life By Those About To Die – (infographic)
- 16 Things I Know Are True But Haven’t Quite Learned Yet
- 25 Truth Everyone Should Know By 25
- 20 Things I Should Have Known at 20
Recommended book: The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch
15. Wealth & Business
Wealth and business don’t really belong to the scope of this blog, but everyone is interested in at least one of those, so why not include some articles about them? It’s noteworthy that some aspects of entrepreneurship are very closely related to self-growth.
- 10 of The Best Financial Education Books That Wealthy People Read
- What Do You Want to Do With Your Life?
- 20 Things The Millionaire Next Door Does NOT Do
- 12 Must Watch TED Talks for Entrepreneurs
- 20 Best Self Growth Books That Will Change Your Life
- 25 Best Books on Self-Improvement You Need To Read Before You Turn 25
- The 10 Best Self Help Books You Have To Read Before You Die
- Top 20 Best Self Help Books of All Time
- Elliott Hulse – Elliott is a weightlifter who has insight on every aspect on life. If you have some concern, it’s possible that Elliott has answered to it in his videos.
- Owen Cook (RSDTyler) – Owen is a pickup guy who’s “transitioned” to self-improvement. He’s an excellent speaker, has great insight and is funny as hell. His focus does include picking up women, so be adviced if that isn’t your cup of tea.
- 23 Best Ted Talks on Self development
- 37 Mind Expanding Subreddits
- Quotes about self-improvement
- 101 Online Self Improvement Resources
- 22 Killer Personal Development Resources You Are Missing Out On
Pictures and comics:
- How To REALLY Set Goals For Yourself
- Success Indicators
- zenpencils.com archives
- Over 200 motivational pictures
Is there something this list is missing? Do you have something to contribute? Share in the comments.